When things fall apart, the Universe is offering you a golden opportunity to put them back together in a new way. Things are happening for a reason. In the middle of the struggle, you are cued up to transform your breakdown into a breakthrough. It’s simply about how you decide to move forward.
You have three major choices following a breakdown. You can:
a) stay in the brokenness and call yourself a victim,
b) try to force things to work again by doing things the same way, or
c) transform your breakdown into a breakthrough by creating something new.
One of those choices goes backwards, one stays stationary, and one moves you forward. I know which one feels better to me, but this is completely up to you.
You are faced with the choice of holding onto what is causing you pain or creating something that is in more alignment with who you really are. You can release those things, people and experiences that no longer serve you and set a new intention for what you truly desire.
Looking at the bigger picture can help to make sense of what has happened. Life brings you exactly what you need to awaken who you really are. There was a reason for the breakdown. Things were not working the way they used to.
You have been asking for change, but you just did not think it would smack you in the face like this.
Perhaps you have been pushing harder, trying to get that square peg to cooperate with the round hole, despite what your gut was telling you. Why didn’t it fit? Maybe you changed. Perhaps your needs changed. Maybe something or someone needed to go and you just did not want to accept it … until the Universe took the wheel.
Point is, you are here for a reason, and that is 100% for personal growth. This is all happening with divine timing, as you are sending prayers and energy out into the world, asking for what you want. The Universe responds by guiding you on a path that will ultimately bring you exactly what you desire. This is the time to take a long, deep breath, relax, and accept that you are going through precisely what you need to get you to a better place.
Lord knows, I’ve been there. Heck, I am there right now. Over the years, I’ve had my share of smackdowns that made little sense in the moment. Life did not turn out the way I planned it at 22, 30 or 41. I mean, I would have jumped ship if anyone showed me the movie reel that was going to unfold over the decades of my life!
But as I have grown, I now see the experiences in a different way. I am grateful for every single thing that forced me to reconstruct my being and clarify my life’s course. I know exactly who I am. I know exactly what I am. I believe that all has happened in sacred process to bring me to the place of freedom and purpose I am in now.
But I am not special in this process – the same renewal, reconstruction and discovery is available to you in this very moment.
As Rumi put it, “The wound is the place where the light enters you.”
When you decide to step out of the darkness of a breakdown and into the light of a breakthrough, the wounds find their healing and the new you finds its way to the surface. Restored. Rebuilt. Reinvigorated. And ready to take on the world in a beautiful, new way.
Dr. Karin Luise is an award-winning author, whole life coach and host of “The Dr. Karin Show.” Find Karin at DoctorKarin.com, thelightersidenetwork.com and thefatherlessdaughterproject.com. Facebook @DR. KARIN; Instagram & Twitter @DoctorKarin