Do you ever find yourself looking in life’s rearview mirror, feeling frustrated, resentful or guilty about something that happened in the past? When we are feeling low and get space to think, we often find ourselves hitting the rewind button and uprooting old negative emotions. These begin as thoughts and memories about the past, then they intermingle with belief systems we’ve created about those people, places or events. Next, our body translates all of that into emotional and physical responses.
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If we experience negative beliefs and feelings, we will get an immediate tightening in stress spots in the body: the gut, chest, neck, shoulders or jaw. Maybe a headache, backache or GI issue will follow. That is your body reacting to the cortisol released by adverse emotional responses, sending you signals that you are knocking yourself out of whack.
Simply put, staring in the rearview mirror at bad experiences and letting a flood of regret, anger or guilt into our systems brings us to a low energetic place. In turn, we feel anxiety, a lowered sense of well-being and disharmony in our bodies, minds and souls.
Whatever we focus on expands. Looking backward at painful experiences pumps new life into things that we really don’t need to be digging back up. They are in the past, and we are supposed to be in the moment.
Then why do we do it?
First of all, we are often still trying to make sense of things. We don’t want to let go until we do. Truth is, sometimes things are not going to make sense to you – until one day you have an a-ha moment and they do.
Or, we are still holding a grudge against someone and for some reason keep giving them our energy. Tip: stop it! Or maybe we are mad at ourselves and keep replaying some bad decision in our heads, driving our body and mind crazy with stress hormones instead of just letting it go and moving forward.
Ruminating over negative past emotions is just plain not good for us mentally, emotionally or spiritually. It puts the car in reverse, and that is not the direction we want to head. We want to keep our momentum moving forward toward our best lives, releasing those things that no longer serve us.
When we can release the need to be right, or that we should be able to control people and experiences, we free ourselves from holding on to the past. In turn, we amp up our present allowance. Then, what we truly desire can come to us quicker.
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HERE ARE 7 STEPS TO FLIP PAST FRUSTRATIONS INTO FREEDOM:
1) Take a deep breath and simply say, “Thank you,” each time you flashback to a negative memory, breathe. Say “Thank you” until you feel it in your soul. (That feeling is freedom.) You grew as a person and refined your place in the world because of it.
2) Pull out something positive that you gained because of the situation. Anything! (i.e., a trip, interesting knowledge or new contacts). By doing that, you are letting the Universe know that these are the good things you want more of.
3) Stop giving the frustration free mental rental. When you realize that you have 100% choice over the mental rental space in your mind, you will learn that your power is in a simple shift in focus that leads to freedom. Hand it over to the White Light of God and move on down the road.
4)Focus on anything positive for over a minute. Each time you do this, you are rewiring your thought patterns, shifting your soul’s energy and sending rockets of desire to the Universe to attract what you really want.
5) Accept that all is happening through you, not to you. Your beliefs are attracting every experience and relationship into your life. Let go of words or beliefs that blame others for your life and find freedom in knowing all is working out perfectly.
6) Ask for your next steps toward your desires. Ask your Higher Power simply for the next steps to guide you to what you want in life and then expect to be led in perfect order to your answers.
7) Repeat the mantra “Everything is working out for me.” Over and over. Stay open for guidance and trust your intuition. Let freedom from the past be your gift to yourself. Trust me, one day, everything will make sense.